Joni: Let's see. What have we got here? It's called From Both Sides, Now. Joni: I'll play that one first. It -- I should tell people a little bit about it. I was reading a book, and I haven't finished it yet, called Henderson the Rain King. And so I got this idea 'from both sides now. That's a new one. Joni: Very new.
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